Custody, Parenting, & Grandparenting
David M. Wildstein: An Advocate for Justice
Custody, parenting, and grandparenting matters are among the most emotionally charged and impactful issues families face. Our dedicated team is committed to advocating for children’s best interests while ensuring that parents, grandparents and children are heard and respected in the legal process. With a comprehensive understanding of family law, we work diligently to help you navigate custody arrangements and parenting plans that prioritize the well-being and stability of your family.
NJ Law On Custody and Parenting
Custody and parenting rights are established primarily in the best interests of children. Under New Jersey statute N.J.S.A. 9:2-1, several key factors must be taken into account when determining these rights.
- The parents’ ability to agree, communicate, and cooperate in matters relating to the child;
- the parent’s willingness to accept custody and any history of unwillingness to allow visitation not based on substantiated abuse;
- the interaction and relationship of the child with parents and siblings;
- the history of domestic violence, if any;
- the safety of the child and the safety of either parent from physical abuse by the other parent;
- the preference of the child when of sufficient age and capacity to reason to form an intelligent decision;
- the needs of the child;
- the stability of the home environment offered, the quality and continuity of the child’s education;
- the fitness of the parents;
- the geographical proximity of the parents’ homes;
- the extent and quality of the time spent with the child before or subsequent to the separation;
- the parents’ employment responsibilities; and
- the age and number of the children.
Definitions of Key Terms
- Parent of Primary Residence (PPR): The residence where the child primarily lives.
- Parent of Alternate Residence (PAR): The residence of the parent who is not the primary custodian.
- Joint Legal Custody: Equal decision-making related to a child’s health, education, and welfare. If a dispute arises regarding a child’s decision, greater weight shall be given to the PPR opinion.
- Joint Physical Custody is a shared physical residence for the children, which can be a 50 percent parenting arrangement.
Decision-Making Authority
If the parties anticipate a future dispute that may impact joint legal custody, the dispute may be addressed at the time of the divorce proceeding or the negotiations related to an agreement. For example, reaching an agreement on a child’s religion or religious education, whether a child attends public or private school, whether a child shall have a particular medical procedure, or whether the child continues therapy or starts therapy.
Irrespective of the parenting arrangement, the parent with physical custody during their parenting time shall have daily decision-making authority dealing with routine matters.
If a party wants to relocate with the children to another state or country, the Court requires a trial to determine if the move is in the children’s best interest. Often, an expert is needed to prepare a report and testify in Court. The trial can be avoided if the other parent consents to the relocation.
New Jersey Parenting Coordination
The Court has the authority, or the parties can agree to appoint a Parenting Coordinator (PC). The PC’s role is to assist the parties in resolving custodial and visitation disputes that may arise. Often, the PC can assist the parties in interpreting a Court Order or adjusting an Order to accommodate special circumstances that arise. The parties shall pay the PC based on their financial circumstances.
New Jersey Child Support
In New Jersey, child support is a critical component of family law, ensuring that the financial needs of children are met following a separation or divorce. The State mandates that both parents contribute to the financial support of their children based on the custody arrangements and the financial circumstances of the parties.
Child support obligations are determined based on various factors, primarily guided by the New Jersey Child Support Guidelines. These guidelines establish a formula for calculating the support amount based on several key factors:
- Income of Both Parents: The income of both parents, including alimony is assessed to determine the child support obligation.
- Custody Arrangements: The amount of time each parent spends overnight with the child plays a significant role in calculating support.
- Healthcare Costs: Any additional medical expenses, including insurance premiums and out-of-pocket medical costs, are considered.
- Childcare Expenses: Costs for daycare or after-school care necessary to allow the custodial parent to work.
- Other Factors: This may include educational expenses, the child’s special needs, and any extraordinary expenses.
If the parties combined net income exceeds $187,200, the guidelines will apply as a base starting point and be supplemented by the needs of the child. The supplemental factors are:
- Needs of the child;
- Standard of living and economic circumstances of each parent;
- All sources of income and assets of each parent;
- Earning ability of each parent, including educational background, training, employment skills, work experience, custodial responsibility for children, including the cost of providing child care and the length of time and cost of each parent to obtain training or experience for appropriate employment;
- Need and capacity of the child for education, including higher education;
- Age and health of the child and each parent;
- Income, assets and earning ability of the child;
- Responsibility of the parents for the court-ordered support of others:
- Reasonable debts and liabilities of each child and parent; and
- Any other factors the court may deem relevant.
Child support orders can be modified in New Jersey if circumstances significantly change that affect either parent’s financial situation or the child’s needs. To request a modification, a parent must file a motion with the court, providing evidence to support the claim of changed circumstances. An increase in the cost of living can be deemed a change in circumstances or the maturation of a child or the change in a child’s social, academic or health needs.
College Education
The courts require parents to contribute to the cost of their children’s college education. In Newburg v. Arrigo, 88 N.J. 529 (1982), the court set forth 12 factors that should be considered in determining college obligation:
- Whether the parent would have contributed to higher education if they were still living with the kids,
- The effect of the parent’s background, goals, and values on whether the child would get higher education,
- The amount of contribution sought by the child to pay for higher education,
- The parent’s capacity to pay the cost,
- The relationship between the contribution and the nature of the school sought,
- Both parents’ financial resources,
- The child’s aptitude for higher education,
- The child’s financial resources,
- The child’s ability to hold down a job in the school year,
- Whether financial aid was available,
- The child’s relationship to the parent who was paying,
- Whether the education would be relevant to the child’s long-term goals.
Grandparent's Rights
If grandparents are denied access to their grandchildren, they can seek visitation rights in Court. N.J.S.A. 9:2-7.1 allows grandparents to petition the court to compel visitation. The burden of proof is on the grandparent(s) to demonstrate that the grandchild will suffer harm if visitation doesn’t occur. Proof by the grandparent that he or she was a “full-time caretaker for the child” in the past is strong evidence that the visitation is in the child’s best interest unless rebutted or contradicted. More often than not, a mental health expert will be needed to prove your case as to the harm the child will suffer if the grandparent(s) are removed from the child’s life.
Custody, Support, Grandparent’s Rights, Parenting Judgments
Custody, support, grandparent’s rights, and parenting judgments are all too often part of the divorce process. Attorney David M. Wildstein has over four decades of experience in family law in the state. He has seen everything and knows how to fight for your rights and protect and provide for your family.
Contact his Woodbridge or Red Bank office to schedule a consultation about a pending divorce, custody and support issues, motions to appeal, post-judgment orders or actions, and other related matters.